So, here it is again. Valentine's Day. February 14th. The day that can make hearts leap or sink in the flash of an FTD bouquet. In years past, I've been a great Valentine. I've been thoughtful and creative, finding the perfect card and gift for my amour. This year, I've been so consumed by work and kids and life in general that the best I could do was a twenty minute, twenty dollar trip to Target yesterday -- a trip that yielded cards, stickers and candy for the kids and only a simple card for the man in my life who deserves much much more.
My husband is a patient, funny, loving, gentle soul. Of course, he is also a husband and, like many husbands, has on occasion completely forgotten Valentine's Day and instead professed "every day is Valentine's Day with you!" I never thought I'd stoop to his level but this year, I have. And, as I'm prone to do far more often today than when we first got married almost a decade ago, I have to admit, he just might be right.
Maybe we should treat every day like Valentine's day -- not in a roses and chocolate kind of way but rather, in the way we treat each other each year when February 14th rolls around -- with an extra dose of love and kindness. With an extra sense of care and devotion. With the thoughtfulness and sensitivity we bestow upon new love and forget all too soon as that love grows familiar and comfortable. Wouldn't it be nice if on any given Tuesday you reminded your loved ones what you loved most about them? What makes them so special to you? That's what I've decided to do this Valentine's Day.
I started by writing that card from Target to the dear man I snuggle in with each night and start anew with each morning. I also wrote cards to each of our kids, taking the time to think about what I love most about them, what makes them each unique. This was a great way to remind myself of what matters most -- on Valentine's day and every other day of the year. In short, it is...
- Des' ability to make me laugh even when I'm tired and grumpy -- which lately, is far to often!
- Liam's willingness to try anything once, his determination to succeed in school and in sports and his wide-eyed innocence that I fear will fade all too soon.
- Ciara's ability to connect with little kids, old folks and anyone in between and offer a sweet smile or kind word. Her smile brightens days, and often brightens mine.
- Kevin's innate happiness... the way he climbs out of his crib and into our bed with a huge grin that is just a delicious way to start the day.
- Declan's infectious laugh and power hugs. The kid has a hug like no other -- it can squeeze a bad day right out of you and for me, often has.
- Cormac's sparkling eyes, alive and aglow with a sense of mischief and disarming charm. It charms me daily and, will surely charm and disarm many other ladies -- and Valentine's -- in the years to come.